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A self-esteem tracker that shows when the dips happen, not just that they do

Self-esteem doesn't fluctuate evenly — it dips around specific moments a client might not be able to articulate in session. Mendly tracks those moments on iPhone with one tap. Weekly reports show the distribution across the week. Hourly patterns reveal which contexts trigger dips. It's the between-session record for therapists, coaches, and partners recommending something that isn't advice.

The research

Psychologist Michael Kernis' research found that self-esteem instability — how much it swings, not just its average level — independently predicts vulnerability to depression and anger. Mendly's hourly pattern data is built to show the swings themselves, which a single 'how's your self-esteem lately' conversation can't capture.

— Michael Kernis, 2005

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Quiz

What's your self-esteem's pattern?

Question 1 of 4

How much does your self-esteem swing day to day?

“Average self-esteem was never the useful number. The size of the swing is — two people with the same average can be having completely different weeks.”

Features

Hourly patterns

See when your inner critic is loudest. Morning spirals? Late-night overthinking? Your data, your story.

Weekly reports

A gentle summary of your week. Not a grade — just a window into your patterns.

One-tap logging

One tap marks the thought — no typing, no prompts. The friction is so low it actually works mid-meeting, mid-walk, mid-spiral.

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Apps like MindLift require active CBT engagement from the user — identifying distortions, completing thought records. For someone whose self-esteem dips make engagement itself harder, that bar is too high. Mendly's one-tap log works at the worst moments, not just the managed ones.

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Common questions

Can a partner or friend recommend this, or is it only for therapy clients?
Anyone can recommend it. Mendly is a consumer app — no clinical relationship required. Partners, friends, coaches, and family members who want to offer something concrete rather than advice can suggest Mendly as a self-tracking tool.
How granular is the hourly data?
Mendly shows the distribution of logged entries across hours of the day and days of the week. After a few weeks of consistent logging, patterns emerge — specific hours when self-esteem tends to dip, specific days that cluster with negative entries. The granularity improves with more entries.
Is this a clinical assessment tool?
No. Mendly produces self-reported log data, not validated clinical measures. It's useful as a qualitative pattern reference alongside clinical work, not as a replacement for standardized assessment tools.
What does the free trial include?
The full app, no restrictions, for 7 days. After 7 days the user chooses monthly ($7.99) or annual ($59.99, about $5/month). Cancel anytime via Apple subscriptions — no emails required.
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